Work is home, work is home, and so on every day. They say that life is a great adventure, but in the monotony of days you donβt even feel that you are living. This led to thinking about and the conclusion was - perhaps, provided that each unicellular strives to do its job qualitatively. This is how the first part of the study, focused on the personal needs of individuals, took shape. But office plankton is a social being, which means interactions in groups deserve separate consideration.
* This essay is based on personal facts and does not claim to be a comprehensive guide to getting your life in order.
Dragging out the existence of office plankton is extremely unpleasant. You are helpless and powerless, deprived of the will to fight for the survival of the soul. So it was with me when I decided to change the story of my life and become not only its hero, but also its author. To begin with, I took up a thorough analysis of past, but still such fresh mistakes. Of course, I stumbled more than once, but I believed that if you unwind the ball from one end, then the reason for the current state of affairs will be on the other.
The first thing that surfaced was the desire to blend in with the crowd. The social group does not forgive a single manifestation of weakness. Curved your soul once? Was he silent or agreed without asking for arguments? It will be expected of you over and over again. Office life is not a battle, but a protracted war. I decided to sit in an ambush today, and you were erased - forever excluded from the active participants in the action. Therefore, for the heart, such an understandable and logically justified desire to seem like a sweetheart in a new place, at least for the first couple of months, can lead to a very disadvantageous position. So I voluntarily enrolled in the ranks of accepting everything as it is Chinese blanks. Instead of delving into each side of the project and its technical details, I was content to receive orders regarding my part. Like a greedy black hole, I took everything indiscriminately and was unable to release anything in return - not even a tiny drop of light.
And the second thing I realized is that you canβt say what you donβt consider the truth. And there is a lot to be explained here. It's not about using the truth to pressure sore points, or about your truth being more important than anyone else's. It is only said that it is very easy to succumb to the temptation to modify objective reality in words for momentary gain. We exaggerate, downplay, understate, in a word, manipulate the information we have in order to make the right impression and tip the scales in our favor. This is unacceptable, as it undermines faith and self-respect. And then it is no longer possible to rely even on oneself. For example, in your study, 75% of test takers left negative reviews about a product. And you are on their side with all your heart, so you just want to conclude that βmore than halfβ showed the expected result. And the subjects with a negative assessment were three people out of four.
Another form of lying is to remain silent when there is something to say. Two years ago, a colleague of mineβlet's call him M.βwas fired from the company. It was well known for what his head flew - for the ideals that we shared with him. M. inadvertently got involved in a fight for our common freedom to think and do quality work and was defeated. Not only did I not stand up for my comrade-in-arms, but I also took advantage of this situation to negotiate better contract terms for myself. In the same vile way, they got rid of the manager who fired M. It even pleased me - karma overtook the villain! However, retribution awaited me. Quietly, under the guise of false smiles, my sentence was also written to leave the company of my own free will. And this time no one stood up for me. Naturally.
I know what you're thinking - the experimental subordinates are not able to override the decision of their superiors. Maybe. But I still believe that this is not entirely true. Top management will not interfere in the political games of middle-class managers, because they themselves have endowed them with power and must support them. But the one who is with a colleague in misfortune of the same status may well ask the boss a question. Sometimes, all that is required is one correctly posed question. And if there are several who show sincere interest, then the chance that the executioner will doubt the correctness of the decision rises above zero.
One person told me that looking for trouble on your own head is the path of a loser. They say you need to sit quietly under the wallpaper and not twitch, because there is no happiness in office life, regardless of the place of work. The answer is, really, nothing. Agree to be a loser if this is the only way to follow the ideals. To fear for a warm place and for this reason to say, not what you think, is very primitive. Maybe that's why the protozoan metaphor haunts me.
I sincerely hope to outgrow the invertebrate phase of life and put beliefs above the desire to protect my cozy little world.
Source: habr.com