<\/a><\/noindex><\/p>\nValia este un angajat slab. Nepriceput\u0103, m\u0103moas\u0103, tot timpul se t\u00e2r\u0103\u0219te pe coad\u0103, dar nu pot discuta despre asta cu ea \u2013 \u00eemi m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 tot creierul. Dar Valia nu poate fi concediat\u0103, pentru c\u0103 este mam\u0103 singur\u0103. Nu este sarcasm, chiar cred c\u0103 nu poate fi concediat\u0103.<\/p>\n
Kolyan este prost ca un dop. Chiar crede asta despre sine. \u0218i a crezut \u00eentotdeauna. Dar are doi copii \u0219i dou\u0103 ipoteci, una pentru el \u0219i alta pentru p\u0103rin\u021bii s\u0103i cu handicap. Kolyan nu poate fi concediat sau retrogradat, se zbate s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i acopere cheltuielile. Trebuie s\u0103-l \u00eemping literal s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021be ceva nou, ca s\u0103 am m\u0103car un motiv s\u0103-i cresc salariul. Nu se opune, dar nici nu este de mare ajutor. Din p\u0103cate, Kolyan este prost.<\/p>\n
Ei bine, Misha a fost concediat. A lucrat \u00eentotdeauna prost, disp\u0103r\u00e2nd din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd \u2013 spunea c\u0103 este ocupat cu o activitate foarte important\u0103 \u0219i nobil\u0103. S-a dovedit c\u0103 este membru al unui grup de c\u0103utare, care dezgroap\u0103 r\u0103m\u0103\u0219i\u021bele solda\u021bilor c\u0103zu\u021bi \u00een timpul celui de-al Doilea R\u0103zboi Mondial. O activitate, desigur, nobil\u0103. Totu\u0219i, Misha nu numai c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i neglijeaz\u0103 munca din cauza acestui lucru, ci \u0219i familia. Iar \u00een aceste expedi\u021bii, sau proiecte, sau ie\u0219iri, nu \u0219tiu cum le numesc, \u00een principal, bea.<\/p>\n
Nu, nu m\u0103 \u00een\u021belege\u021bi gre\u0219it, nu sunt idealist \u0219i nu sunt sf\u00e2nt. \u00cen via\u021ba mea personal\u0103 am destule lucruri despre care ar fi mai bine s\u0103 nu povestesc. Dar, cu timpul, am ajuns la concluzia c\u0103 nu vreau s\u0103 \u0219tiu despre via\u021ba personal\u0103 a colegilor \u0219i, cu at\u00e2t mai mult, a subordona\u021bilor.<\/p>\n
S\u0103 fie angajatul un personaj bidimensional, de carton. S\u0103 se vad\u0103 doar calit\u0103\u021bile sale profesionale \u2013 abilit\u0103\u021bile tehnice, capacitatea de dezvoltare, dorin\u021ba de a \u00eencerca lucruri noi \u0219i ra\u021bionalitatea general\u0103. Iar problemele personale s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 cu scheletele acolo unde le este locul \u2013 \u00een dulap.<\/p>\n
Altminteri, iese la iveal\u0103 o \u00eentreag\u0103 poveste de tip Dostoevski. Orice personalitate, dac\u0103 afli prea multe despre ea, devine complex\u0103, dificil\u0103 \u0219i neclar\u0103. Nu exist\u0103 nicio persoan\u0103 care s\u0103 fie pur \u0219i simplu bun\u0103 sau rea. Fiecare are o poveste \u00een spate, uneori dramatic\u0103, alteori comic\u0103, dar de cele mai multe ori \u2013 simpl\u0103, modest\u0103, cotidian\u0103. \u0218i din acest motiv \u2013 at\u00e2t de apropiat\u0103 \u0219i \u00een\u021beleas\u0103.<\/p>\n
Fac o distinc\u021bie simpl\u0103: vreau s\u0103 \u0219tiu doar despre problemele angajatului, \u00een solu\u021bionarea c\u0103rora pot ajuta. De exemplu, dac\u0103 persoana are cu adev\u0103rat nevoie de bani.<\/p>\n
Dar, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 cumva a\u0219a. Angajatul lucreaz\u0103 mediu. Cu toate acestea, \u00een companie exist\u0103 c\u00e2teva programe foarte clare pentru \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021birea abilit\u0103\u021bilor, avansarea \u00een carier\u0103 sau profesional\u0103. \u0218i angajatul nu le folose\u0219te.<\/p>\n
Apoi vine \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi spune: vreau s\u0103 c\u00e2\u0219tig mai mul\u021bi bani. \u00ce\u021bi spun, bun, cine te opre\u0219te? Uite, studiaz\u0103 subiectele acestea, rezolv\u0103 sarcini sau ia o certificare, \u0219i vei c\u00e2\u0219tiga mai mult. Studiaz\u0103 acel framework de care au nevoie clien\u021bii, dar nu exist\u0103 competen\u021be \u00een companie \u2013 toate proiectele tale vor fi.<\/p>\n
Accept\u0103, pleac\u0103. Apoi, dup\u0103 aproximativ jum\u0103tate de an, revine \u0219i declar\u0103 din nou \u2013 vreau mai mul\u021bi bani. \u00centrebi \u2013 \u0219i cum stai cu dezvoltarea? Ai studiat sau ai ob\u021binut ceva nou? Nu, spune. Atunci, de ce ai venit?<\/p>\n
\u0218i aici, m\u0103 rog, descoperim. \u00cencepe un striptease emo\u021bional, o expunere a sufletului, pove\u0219ti emo\u021bionante despre \u201e\u0219apte la mas\u0103\u201d, ipoteci \u0219i lipsa banilor pentru nevoile de baz\u0103.<\/p>\n
Dar pentru ce naiba\u2026 Explic\u0103-mi, prietene, de ce ai stat jum\u0103tate de an \u0219i te-ai sc\u0103rpinat \u00een nas \u00een timp ce copiilor t\u0103i nu le r\u0103m\u00e2nea nimic de m\u00e2ncare? \u0218i acum \u00eemi dai toate astea mie, ca \u0219i cum a\u0219 fi vinovat c\u0103 nu po\u021bi lua m\u0103suri simple \u0219i clare pentru a-\u021bi \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bi calificarea?<\/p>\n
\u00cencepi s\u0103 te pl\u00e2ngi c\u0103, chipurile, nu te-am motivat suficient sau c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu ce. Dar copiii fl\u0103m\u00e2nzi nu te motiveaz\u0103? Nu \u00een sens direct, ci \u00een cel figurat. Sau poate chiar \u00een sens direct \u2013 ar fi o idee bun\u0103.<\/p>\n
Da, probabil c\u0103 a\u0219 fi fost mai atent la tine dac\u0103 a\u0219 fi \u0219tiut de la \u00eenceput c\u0103 nu vrei doar s\u0103 c\u00e2\u0219tigi mai mul\u021bi bani, ci c\u0103 pur \u0219i simplu nu \u00ee\u021bi ajung. Aceasta este o abordare complet normal\u0103, inclusiv pentru concediere. Eu am f\u0103cut la fel, c\u00e2nd so\u021bia nu lucra, aveam deja un copil \u0219i \u00eenc\u0103 o ipotec\u0103.<\/p>\n
Dar faptul c\u0103 mi-ai spus asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 acum eu, sau compania, suntem responsabili pentru familia ta. Eu pur \u0219i simplu \u00een\u021beleg mai bine motiva\u021bia ta. Crede-m\u0103, \u0219tiu foarte bine ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 \u201elipsa banilor\u201d. Dar un lucru nu \u00een\u021beleg: de ce naiba nu faci nimic.<\/p>\n
Exist\u0103 \u0219i al\u021bi oameni cu acelea\u0219i probleme, care merg mai departe \u0219i ac\u021bioneaz\u0103. \u00cenv\u0103\u021b\u00e2nd, cresc\u00e2nd, c\u00e2\u0219tig\u00e2nd tot mai mult. Iar tu te pl\u00e2ngi \u0219i ceri ajutor.<\/p>\n
\u00centr-o anumit\u0103 metodologie, problemele sunt numite maimu\u021be pe umeri. C\u00e2t timp problema este a ta, maimu\u021ba st\u0103 pe umerii t\u0103i. De \u00eendat\u0103 ce ai \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219it problema cu altcineva, maimu\u021ba se mut\u0103 la altcineva mai norocos.<\/p>\n
Bun, problemele de munc\u0103 sunt mai u\u0219or de l\u0103sat deoparte \u2013 e un lucru sf\u00e2nt. Dar de ce s\u0103 mut\u0103m problemele personale? Te voi ajuta s\u0103 scapi de maimu\u021b\u0103, dar nu te g\u00e2ndi c\u0103 o voi purta \u00een locul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n
Mi se pare c\u0103 exist\u0103 dou\u0103 scenarii normale.<\/p>\n
Primul \u2013 p\u0103streaz\u0103-\u021bi problemele pentru tine. Eu a\u0219a fac. Nu este o atitudine \u00eenchis\u0103 sau neprietenoas\u0103, ci dimpotriv\u0103 \u2013 o rela\u021bie normal\u0103 cu oamenii care au deja destule probleme.<\/p>\n
Al doilea \u2013 \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219e\u0219te, dar fii preg\u0103tit s\u0103 te schimbi. Aici nu e loc pentru \u00eent\u00e2lniri cu rudele care pl\u00e2ng \u00eempreun\u0103 pentru problemele tale \u0219i apoi se v\u0103d de drum. Spui c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi lipsesc banii? Bine, iat\u0103 un plan de dezvoltare, respect\u0103-l \u0219i vei c\u00e2\u0219tiga mai mult. Iat\u0103-\u021bi un proiect, dificil, dar profitabil. Iat\u0103-\u021bi un nou cadru, solicitat, dar at\u00e2t de complicat \u00eenc\u00e2t nimeni nu vrea s\u0103 se apuce de el.<\/p>\n
Nu vrei? Ei bine, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u. \u00cen\u021beleg c\u0103 vrei o m\u0103rire de salariu din cauza problemelor tale. \u0218i eu vreau. \u0218i eu am probleme. \u0218i Cristina are probleme, \u0219i Vlad, \u0219i Pasha. Doar c\u0103 ei nu povestesc.<\/p>\n
Ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla dac\u0103 oamenii vor \u00eencepe s\u0103 fie pl\u0103ti\u021bi pentru volumul dificult\u0103\u021bilor personale? Ar fi un sistem de motivare amuzant. Cred c\u0103, \u00een acel caz, problemele personale cunoscute ar deveni mai numeroase.<\/p>\n
Excep\u021biile, desigur, sunt reprezentate de dificult\u0103\u021bile nea\u0219teptate. Nu acelea care s-au acumulat timp de ani din cauza leneviei, a lipsei de ini\u021biativ\u0103 \u0219i a nep\u0103s\u0103rii. Dar asta nu mai e o chestiune de m\u0103rire a salariului \u2013 e un caz de for\u021b\u0103 major\u0103, c\u00e2nd ajutorul e necesar aici \u0219i acum.<\/p>\n
Ei bine, c\u00e2nd angajatul vine cu problemele de la sine, e un lucru. Dar ce s\u0103 faci dac\u0103 afl\u0103 din \u00eent\u00e2mplare ceva despre el?<\/p>\n
De exemplu, afli c\u0103 bea, \u00ee\u0219i bate copiii \u0219i so\u021bia, iar uneori \u0219i vecinii. Cum ar trebui s\u0103 reac\u021bionezi? Evident c\u0103 nu ar povesti niciodat\u0103 a\u0219a ceva. De\u0219i, probabil, ar fi amuzant \u2013 da\u021bi-mi o m\u0103rire de salariu pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi bat copiii.<\/p>\n
Dup\u0103 ce am aflat o astfel de informa\u021bie, din p\u0103cate, nu pot s\u0103 m\u0103 ab\u021bin de la ea. \u0218i, prin urmare, nu pot s\u0103-l privesc pe angajat la fel ca \u00eenainte. \u00cen\u021beleg c\u0103, mai degrab\u0103, e defectul meu, dar nu pot face nimic \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu asta.<\/p>\n
Exist\u0103 colegi care ocup\u0103 func\u021bii de conducere care nu evit\u0103 astfel de informa\u021bii, dimpotriv\u0103 \u2013 caut\u0103 s\u0103 se sape mai ad\u00e2nc. \u0218i apoi manipuleaz\u0103, folosesc aceste informa\u021bii \u00een scopurile lor, cunosc\u00e2nd angaja\u021bii ca pe o carte deschis\u0103. Nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 au dreptate sau nu, dar acest tip de abordare nu mi se potrive\u0219te.<\/p>\n
\u0218i mai sunt momente c\u00e2nd afli despre un angajat ceva ce \u00ee\u021bi fr\u00e2ng\u0103 inima. Dar ce s\u0103 fac cu asta \u2013 nu e clar. \u0218tii c\u0103 are nevoie de bani. \u00cencepi s\u0103 \u00eei acorzi mai mult\u0103 aten\u021bie, s\u0103 \u00eei dai sarcini \u0219i proiecte mai bine pl\u0103tite, s\u0103-l trimi\u021bi la cursuri. \u0218i el nu \u00eei pas\u0103 de asta.<\/p>\n
Nu \u00een sensul c\u0103 am nevoie de vreo recuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103. O fac din tot sufletul, pref\u0103c\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu despre problemele lui. Pur \u0219i simplu \u00eei ofer, ca prioritate, oportunit\u0103\u021bi care l-ar ajuta s\u0103 rezolve problemele personale. Dar el nu profit\u0103 de aceste oportunit\u0103\u021bi.<\/p>\n
Se descurc\u0103 deja bine. \u00cei plac chiar \u0219i problemele lui. Se scald\u0103 \u00een ele, uneori, \u0219i se bucur\u0103. Iar eu, ca un prost, \u00eencerc s\u0103-l ajut. \u0218i m\u0103 simt ca un idiot.<\/p>\n
\u00cen general, am decis de mult pentru mine: s\u0103-l las \u00een pace. Nu vreau s\u0103 \u0219tiu nimic despre via\u021ba personal\u0103 a colegilor, subalternilor \u0219i superiorilor. De aceea nu merg la petreceri corporative, excursii \u0219i \u00eent\u00e2lniri de ani de zile.<\/p>\n
Oamenii \u00een afara programului de lucru, mai ales sub influen\u021ba alcoolului, sunt mereu atra\u0219i de discu\u021bii intime \u0219i po\u021bi s\u0103 afli multe lucruri \u00een plus. Poate c\u0103 persoana nu are inten\u021bii ascunse, poveste\u0219te f\u0103r\u0103 g\u00e2nduri ascunse, dar eu, din cauza impresibilit\u0103\u021bii excesive, nu pot s\u0103 ignor ulterior aceast\u0103 informa\u021bie.<\/p>\n
La birou, \u00eencerc s\u0103 evit discu\u021biile lungi \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103ria corporativ\u0103, mai ales cu b\u00e2rfitorii. Din p\u0103cate, acest tip de oameni este \u00eenc\u0103 r\u0103sp\u00e2ndit. N-ai nevoie dec\u00e2t s\u0103-i hr\u0103ne\u0219ti cu \u00eentreb\u0103ri, iar ei, pur \u0219i simplu, ador\u0103 s\u0103 povesteasc\u0103 dup\u0103 aceea. \u00ce\u0219i fac asta f\u0103r\u0103 inten\u021bii rele, pur \u0219i simplu \u00eei amuz\u0103. \u0218i mie ce-mi folose\u0219te? S\u0103 m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc la asta mai t\u00e2rziu? S\u0103 v\u0103d \u00een personaj nu un programator de prim\u0103 clas\u0103, ci o Persoan\u0103 Complex\u0103? Nu, mul\u021bumesc.<\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 cineva are probleme, \u00een solu\u021bionarea c\u0103rora pot ajuta \u00een cadrul \u00eendatoririlor profesionale \u2013 ajut. \u0218i nu doar \u00een cadrul acestora. Se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 tot felul de lucruri \u2013 s\u0103 \u00eemprumu\u021bi bani p\u00e2n\u0103 la salariu, s\u0103 aduci o ma\u0219in\u0103 la via\u021b\u0103, s\u0103 oferi o carte de citit, s\u0103 ajuti \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie grea. Deseori, mi se cere s\u0103 eliberez pe cineva mai devreme, sau s\u0103 plec \u2013 de exemplu, s\u0103 iau un copil de la gr\u0103dini\u021ba de logopedie, care, dintr-un motiv oarecare, lucreaz\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la ora 17:00. Cu asta nu exist\u0103 probleme, \u0219i eu plec uneori. Exist\u0103 indicatori obiectivi, iar ace\u0219tia nu necesit\u0103 s\u0103 fii la birou de la 8 la 17.<\/p>\n
\u00cencerc s\u0103 ajut. Dar \u2013 f\u0103r\u0103 a m\u0103 implica prea mult. Am ajutat \u0219i am uitat. Nu m\u0103 bag \u00een suflet, nu cer recuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i ajutor reciproc. Dac\u0103 persoana \u00eencepe totu\u0219i s\u0103 povesteasc\u0103 ceva \u2013 o opresc, pe c\u00e2t posibil. Ai cerut o mie p\u00e2n\u0103 luni \u2013 iat\u0103-\u021bi o mie p\u00e2n\u0103 luni. De ce, cum \u2013 nu e treaba mea. Doar \u00eentoarce.<\/p>\n
Din partea mea, ac\u021bionez invers \u2013 nu povestesc despre via\u021ba mea personal\u0103, ceea ce ar putea afecta munca. Nu \u00eemi mut maimu\u021bele de pe um\u0103rul meu pe alte umeri, deoarece este incorect.<\/p>\n
Dar la voi cum stau lucrurile?<\/p>\n
Rezumatul articolului<\/h4>\n \nMai bine s\u0103 nu \u0219tii despre via\u021ba personal\u0103 a angaja\u021bilor. Dac\u0103 nu \u0219tii, vezi doar partea \u201eprofesional\u0103\u201d a angaja\u021bilor. Dac\u0103 \u0219tii, angaja\u021bii devin multidimensionali, complec\u0219i, \u0219i, lucr\u00e2nd cu ei, trebuie s\u0103 iei \u00een considerare mul\u021bi factori.<\/p>\n
Astfel, despre via\u021ba mea personal\u0103 este mai bine s\u0103 nu vorbesc nici eu. A te desc\u0103rca de problemele tale asupra colegilor \u0219i \u0219efilor \u2013 nu este foarte corect.<\/p>\n
Cu toate acestea, dac\u0103 activitatea profesional\u0103 poate ajuta la rezolvarea problemelor personale, atunci aceast\u0103 informa\u021bie poate fi \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219it\u0103. \u00cen schimb, nu se pot oferi bani, ci oportunit\u0103\u021bi. Dar va trebui s\u0103 profi\u021bi de aceste oportunit\u0103\u021bi.<\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 nu e\u0219ti preg\u0103tit s\u0103 profi\u021bi \u2013 nu-i \u00eenc\u0103rca pe ceilal\u021bi cu problemele tale.habr.com<\/a><\/p>","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u041a\u0440\u0430\u0442\u043a\u043e\u0435 \u0441\u043e\u0434\u0435\u0440\u0436\u0430\u043d\u0438\u0435 \u0441\u0442\u0430\u0442\u044c\u0438 \u2014 \u0432 \u043a\u043e\u043d\u0446\u0435 \u0442\u0435\u043a\u0441\u0442\u0430. \u041b\u0435\u0445\u0430 \u2013 \u043e\u0442\u043b\u0438\u0447\u043d\u044b\u0439 \u043f\u0430\u0440\u0435\u043d\u044c. \u0425\u043e\u0440\u043e\u0448\u043e \u0440\u0430\u0431\u043e\u0442\u0430\u0435\u0442, \u0438\u0441\u043f\u043e\u043b\u043d\u0438\u0442\u0435\u043b\u044c\u043d\u044b\u0439, \u0441 \u0438\u0434\u0435\u044f\u043c\u0438, \u043f\u0435\u0440\u0441\u043f\u0435\u043a\u0442\u0438\u0432\u043d\u044b\u0439. \u0421\u0434\u0435\u043b\u0430\u043b\u0438 \u0441 \u043d\u0438\u043c \u043f\u0430\u0440\u0443 \u043e\u0442\u043b\u0438\u0447\u043d\u044b\u0445 \u043f\u0440\u043e\u0435\u043a\u0442\u043e\u0432. \u041d\u043e \u043e\u043d \u0431\u0435\u0433\u0430\u0435\u0442 \u043e\u0442 \u0443\u043f\u043b\u0430\u0442\u044b \u0430\u043b\u0438\u043c\u0435\u043d\u0442\u043e\u0432 \u043d\u0430 \u0440\u0435\u0431\u0435\u043d\u043a\u0430 \u043e\u0442 \u043f\u0435\u0440\u0432\u043e\u0433\u043e \u0431\u0440\u0430\u043a\u0430. \u041f\u0440\u044f\u043c \u043f\u0440\u0438\u0445\u043e\u0434\u0438\u0442 \u0438 \u043f\u0440\u043e\u0441\u0438\u0442, \u0447\u0442\u043e\u0431\u044b \u043a\u0430\u043a-\u0442\u043e \u0441\u043a\u0440\u044b\u0442\u044c \u0435\u0433\u043e \u0434\u043e\u0445\u043e\u0434, \u0438 \u00ab\u043f\u043b\u0430\u0442\u0438\u0442\u044c \u0435\u0439 \u043f\u043e\u043c\u0435\u043d\u044c\u0448\u0435\u00bb. \u0413\u0435\u043d\u0430 \u2013 \u043d\u043e\u0440\u043c\u0430\u043b\u044c\u043d\u044b\u0439 \u043c\u0435\u043d\u0435\u0434\u0436\u0435\u0440. \u0412\u0435\u0441\u0435\u043b\u044b\u0439, \u0440\u0430\u0437\u0433\u043e\u0432\u043e\u0440\u0447\u0438\u0432\u044b\u0439, \u0431\u0435\u0437 \u043f\u043e\u043d\u0442\u043e\u0432. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[702],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39173","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t