Nginenzondo enkulu kuyo yonke into ehlobene "nokuzithuthukisa" - abaqeqeshi bempilo, ama-gurus, abagqugquzeli abakhulumayo. Ngifuna ukushisa izincwadi “zokuzisiza” ngomlilo omkhulu. Ngaphandle kokuhlekisa, u-Dale Carnegie noTony Robbins bayangicasula - ngaphezu kwezangoma nama-homeopaths. Kuyangizwisa ubuhlungu ukubona ukuthi abanye "Ubuciko Obucashile Bokunganiki i-F * ck" buba kanjani umthengisi ohamba phambili, futhi uMark Manson usevele ebhala incwadi yesibili mahhala. Ngiyizonda ngendlela engaqondakali, nakuba ngingakayivuli futhi ngingahlosile.
Lapho ngilungiselela inhlolokhono neqhawe lalesi sihloko, ngabhekana nokucasuka isikhathi eside - ngoba ngokushesha ngambhalisa ekamu elinobutha. UChris Dancy, indoda izintatheli ebeziyibiza ngokuthi “Indoda exhunywe kakhulu emhlabeni” iminyaka emihlanu, yenza ukuphila kwayo kube ngcono ngokuqoqa idatha futhi ifundise nabanye ukuba benze okufanayo.
Eqinisweni, vele, yonke into ihlala ihlukile. UChris, owayengumhleli wezinhlelo, ubelokhu eqopha yonke into ayenzayo cishe iminyaka eyishumi, konke okumzungezile, ehlaziya futhi ethola ukuxhumana okungabonakali ngokuphelele nokuthakazelisa ngempela okumvumela ukuthi abone ukuphila ngaphandle. Indlela yobunjiniyela ize iguqule “ukuzithuthukisa” isuke ekubeni yingxoxo engenangqondo ibe into esebenzayo.
Sikhulume njengengxenye yokulungiselela kukaChris ukudlala kwakhe e-Rocket Science Fest ngoSepthemba 14 eMoscow. Ngemva kwengxoxo yethu, ngisafuna ukunika u-Mark Manson no-Tony Robbins umunwe ophakathi, kodwa ngibheka i-Google Khalenda ngelukuluku.
Kusukela kubahleli bezinhlelo kuya kosaziwayo be-TV
UChris waqala ukuhlela esemncane. Ngeminyaka yama-80s wasebenzisa i-Basic, ngeminyaka yama-90s wafunda i-HTML, ngeminyaka yawo-XNUMX waba ngumdidiyeli wedatha futhi wasebenza ngolimi lwe-SQL. Okwesikhashana - nge-Objective-C, kodwa, njengoba esho, akukho lutho oluwusizo olwavela kuyo. Lapho eneminyaka engamashumi amane, wayesesukile ekuthuthukisweni ngezandla zakhe, waqala ukugxila kakhulu ekuphatheni.
“Umsebenzi awukaze ungilethele injabulo enkulu. Kwadingeka ngisebenzele abanye, kodwa ngangingafuni. Ngangithanda ukuzisebenzela mina kuphela. Kodwa le mboni ikhokha imali eningi. Izinkulungwane eziyikhulu, amakhulu amabili, amakhulu amathathu ziningi ngempela. Futhi abantu bakuphatha cishe njengonkulunkulu. Lokhu kuholela ohlotsheni oluthile lwesimo esiphendukezelwe. Ngiyazi abantu abaningi abenza izinto abangazithandi ukuze nje bagcine izinga labo lokunethezeka. Kodwa into engcono kakhulu engiyenzile emsebenzini wami wukutshela umsebenzi wami ukuthi uye esihogweni.”
Kusukela ngo-2008, uChris waqala ukuqoqa nokugcina yonke imininingwane ngaye. Uqophe yonke imisebenzi yakhe - ukudla, izingcingo, izingxoxo nabantu, umsebenzi nezindaba zasekhaya - ku-Google Khalenda. Ngokuhambisana nalokhu, wacabangela lonke ulwazi lwangaphakathi nolwangaphandle, izinga lokushisa lemvelo, ukukhanya, ukushaya kwenhliziyo, nokunye okuningi. Ngemva kweminyaka emihlanu, lokhu kwenza uChris aziwa.
Imithombo yezindaba emikhulu, ilandelana, yakhuluma indaba yendoda eqopha zonke izingxenye zempilo yayo nakho konke okuzungezile. Iziteketiso azinikwa yizintatheli zaqala ukunamathela kuye. "Indoda eqopha yonke into." "Indoda ekala kakhulu emhlabeni." Isithombe sikaChris sasithinta isithakazelo somphakathi, esingakwazi ukuhambisana nokuguqulwa kwezobuchwepheshe emhlabeni - umdwebi wezinhlelo oneminyaka ephakathi ombozwe kusukela ekhanda kuye ozwaneni ngamagajethi. Ngaleso sikhathi, kwakungaxhunywa izinzwa ezifika kwamakhulu amathathu ahlukene emzimbeni wakhe. Futhi uma sibala nalezo ezazifakwe ekhaya, inani lafinyelela amakhulu ayisikhombisa.
Ezingxoxweni zeziteshi zikamabonakude, uChris ubonakale egqoke izingubo ezigcwele, ehlale egqoke i-Google Glass. Ngaleso sikhathi, izintatheli zazizithatha njengegajethi esemfashinini emangalisayo nethembisayo, isithombe sekusasa ledijithali elizayo. Ekugcineni, uChris wathola isiteketiso sakhe sokugcina - indoda exhunywe kakhulu emhlabeni. Kuze kube manje, uma uthayipha okungenani amagama amabili okuqala ku-Google, into yokuqala oseshweni kuzoba isithombe sikaChris.
Isithombe saqala ukwedlula kakhulu futhi sahlanekezela iqiniso. Ngenxa yesidlaliso sakhe, uChris waqala ukubhekwa njengento efana ne-cyborg, indoda eyayizihlanganise nobuchwepheshe ngendlela eyeqisayo futhi yashintsha cishe zonke izitho zayo ngama-microcircuits.
“Ngo-2013, ngaqala ukuvela njalo ezindabeni. Abantu bangibiza ngokuthi ngingumuntu oxhumene kakhulu emhlabeni, futhi ngacabanga ukuthi lokho kuyahlekisa. Ngaqasha umthwebuli wezithombe futhi wangithwebula ezinye izithombe zami ngezintambo eziphuma ezingalweni zami nezinto ezihlukahlukene ezixhunywe emzimbeni wami. Okokuzijabulisa nje. Abantu bathatha ubuchwepheshe buthatha impilo yabo njengento ebaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa bengifuna bakuthathe kalula.”
Eqinisweni, uChris wayengeyena noma iyiphi i-cyborg. Akanawo ngisho nama-chips alula ngaphansi kwesikhumba sakhe - ubheka ukufakwa kwawo njengezwi le-pop. Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje umuntu oxhumeke kakhulu uyavuma ukuthi noma ngubani one-smartphone uxhumeke ngendlela axhumeke ngayo - odume "ngokuxhumana" kwakhe.
“Abantu abaningi ababoni nokuthi ngo-2019 baxhumeke kakhulu kunami ngo-2010. Babuka izithombe zami ezindala lapho ngimbozwe khona izinzwa futhi bacabange ukuthi ngiyirobhothi. Kodwa akudingeki sibheke inombolo yamadivayisi, kodwa ngenani lokuxhumana nobuchwepheshe. Imeyili ukuxhumana, ikhalenda ukuxhumana, GPS emotweni ukuxhumana. Ikhadi lesikweletu elixhunywe ku-inthanethi liwukuxhumana, uhlelo lokusebenza loku-oda ukudla luwukuxhumana. Abantu bacabanga ukuthi akukho okushintshile - sekuvele kwaba lula ukuthi bathole ukudla. Kodwa kungaphezu kwalokho.
Ngaphambilini, nganginemishini ehlukene yayo yonke into - idivayisi yokukala umfutho wegazi, ukushaya kwenhliziyo, ukukhanya, umsindo. Futhi namuhla konke lokhu kwenziwa yi-smartphone. Into enzima kakhulu manje ukufundisa abantu ukuthi bangayithola kanjani yonke le datha mayelana nabo ocingweni lwabo. Isibonelo, eMelika, uma abantu abane beshayela emotweni, ngamunye wabo une-GPS navigator, nakuba eqinisweni umshayeli kuphela oyidingayo. Kodwa manje siphila ezweni lapho singeke saqonda lutho ngalo mhlaba nendawo yethu kuwo ngaphandle uma kunesixhumi esibonakalayo esilungiselelwe isimo esithile. Akukuhle noma kubi, angifuni ukwahlulela. Kodwa ngikholwa ukuthi uma ungalawuli ukusebenzisa kwakho, lokhu "ubuvila obusha."
Idatha ye-Soft-Hard-Core
UChris waqala ngokuqoqa imininingwane ngoba wayecabanga ngempilo yakhe. Lapho eneminyaka engamashumi amane nanhlanu, wayesekhuluphele kakhulu, engakwazi ukulawula ukudla kwakhe, ebhema amaphakethe amabili e-Marlboro Lights ngosuku, futhi wayengakuthandi ukuhlala endaweni yokucima ukoma iziphuzo ezimbalwa. Kungakapheli unyaka, walahla imikhuba emibi futhi wehla ngamakhilogremu angu-45. Ukuqoqwa kwedatha kwase kuba okungaphezu nje kokunakekelwa kwezempilo. “Khona-ke ugqozi lwami lwaba lokuqonda engangikuqonda ngomhlaba. Futhi-ke - ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ngangifuna ukuyiqonda, nokunye nokunye. Bese usiza abanye baqonde.”
UChris Dancy ngo-2008 nango-2016
Ekuqaleni, uChris wabhala yonke into ngokungakhethi, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuhlola ukuthi idatha ingaba usizo noma cha. Wamane waziqoqa. UChris uhlukanise idatha ngezigaba ezintathu - ethambile, eqinile futhi ewumgogodla.
“Idatha ethambile engizakhela yona, ngiqaphela ukuthi izethameli ezithile ziyabamba iqhaza kuyo. Isibonelo, ingxoxo noma okuthunyelwe ku-Facebook. Uma udala le datha, uhlale ukhumbula ukuthi izobonwa kanjani abantu, futhi lokhu kuhlanekezela yonke into. Kodwa ngokwesibonelo, angikwazi ukuhlukanisa ingxoxo ngedwa nenja yami njenge-Soft, ngoba akekho ongithonyayo. Emphakathini, ngingaba mnandi kakhulu nenja yami, kodwa uma sisodwa, ngiba yilokho engiyikho ngempela. I-Soft idatha echemile, ngakho inani layo liphansi.
Ngiyethemba idatha evela esigabeni esiqinile kancane kancane. Isibonelo, lokhu ukuphefumula kwami. Ezimweni eziningi lisebenza ngokwalo. Kodwa uma ngithukuthele engxoxweni, ngizama ukuzehlisa, futhi lokhu kwenza kube nzima ukuhlukanisa. Idatha ehlukile iyathonya enye kwenye. Futhi nokho umoya ukhonkolo kakhulu kune-selfie.
Noma isimo somzwelo. Uma ngiziqophela mina kuphela, lesi isigaba esinzima. Uma ngikhuluma ngesimo sami kwabanye, sesivele Sithambile. Kodwa uma ngithi nginesithukuthezi ukukhuluma nawe, bese ngibhala ku-Twitter “Ngikhulume nentatheli esezingeni eliphezulu. Ingxoxo yethu ibithakazelisa kakhulu”, engikutshele khona kuzoba nzima kune-tweet. Ngakho-ke, lapho ngihlukanisa, ngicabangela ithonya lezilaleli.
Futhi isigaba se-Core yidatha okungekho muntu oyithonyayo, noma mina noma umbono wezilaleli. Abantu bayababona, kodwa akukho okushintshile. Lezi, isibonelo, imiphumela yokuhlolwa kwegazi, izakhi zofuzo, amaza obuchopho. Bangaphezu kwamandla ami."
Ukuthuthukisa ukulala, intukuthelo nokuchama
UChris uphinde wahlukanisa izindlela zokuqoqa idatha ngezigaba eziningana. Elula kakhulu abaqoqi bephuzu elilodwa. Isibonelo, uhlelo lokusebenza olurekhoda ukuthi uthini umculo uChris awulalela, indawo lapho ayekhona. Okwesibili ama-aggregators aqoqa izinhlobo eziningi zedatha, njengezinhlelo zokusebenza zokulandelela izinkomba zebhayoloji noma izinhlelo ezirekhoda umsebenzi wekhompyutha. Kodwa mhlawumbe into ethakazelisa kakhulu abaqoqi bangokwezifiso uChris aphatha ngayo imikhuba yakhe. Barekhoda idatha ehambisana nemikhuba futhi bathumele izexwayiso uma okuthile kungahambi ngokohlelo.
Ngokwesibonelo, ngiwuthanda kakhulu u-ayisikhilimu, futhi unginikeza izinkinga eziningi. Ngangikwazi ukudla lokhu nsuku zonke, sina. Uma usumdala, uqala ukuhalela amaswidi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke - ngenze umqoqi wamaphuzu owalandelela ukuthi ngiya kaningi kangakanani ku-Dairy Queen (uchungechunge lwezindawo zokudlela zika-ayisikhilimu). Futhi ngaphawula ukuthi ngaqala ukuya lapho njalo lapho ngithola isilinganiso esithile sokulala. Okusho ukuthi, uma ngingalali ngokwanele, ngizogcina ngi-Dairy Queen noma kunjalo. Ngakho ngamisa umqoqi oqapha ukulala. Uma ebona ukuthi ngilale isikhathi esingaphansi kwamahora ayisikhombisa, ungithumelela umyalezo othi “dla ubhanana.” Lena yindlela engizama ngayo ukunqanda ukulangazelela komzimba wami uswidi, okubangelwa ukungalali1.”
Noma ngaphezulu. Njengoba amadoda ekhula, adinga ukuchama kaningi. Akulula ukuligcina lingaphakathi njengakuqala. Yingakho abantu abadala behlale beya endlini encane phakathi kwamabili. Lapho ngihlanganisa iminyaka engamashumi amane, ngazama ukuthola ukuthi kunini lapho okufanele ngiphuze khona ukuze ngingavuki ebusuku. Ngilengise inzwa eyodwa endlini yangasese, eyesibili eduze kwesiqandisi. Ngachitha amasonto amathathu ngikala ukuphuza kwami futhi ngiya endlini yangasese ukuze ngibone ukuthi isinye sami singahlala isikhathi esingakanani, futhi ekugcineni ngazibekela isimiso - ukubeka izikhumbuzo zokuthi ngingaphuzi ngemva kwesikhathi esithile uma kwenzeka nginosuku olukhulu futhi ngidinga lala."
Ngendlela efanayo, ukwaziswa kwasiza uChris ukuba aqonde indlela yokulawula isimo sakhe somzwelo. Ebuka imizwa yakhe ishintsha, waqaphela ukuthi kwakungenakwenzeka ukuthukuthela ngempela izikhathi eziningana ngosuku olulodwa. Ngokwesibonelo, ucasulwa abantu abafika sekwephuzile, kodwa ngeke kusebenze ukucasuka ngendlela efanayo nomuntu ofike sekwephuzile izikhathi ezimbili zilandelana. Ngakho-ke, uChris wenza izinyathelo zokuvimbela, enza okuthile njengokugoma imizwa. Uhlanganise uhlu lwadlalwayo ku-Youtube olunamazwi aqoshiwe abantu abahlangabezana nemizwa ehlukahlukene enamandla. "Futhi uma ekuseni, ubuka ividiyo, "ungenwe" intukuthelo yomunye umuntu, khona-ke phakathi nosuku ngeke ube mancane amathuba okuba uhlasele abantu abacasulayo."
Lapho ngiqala ukufunda ngoChris, kimi kwabonakala sengathi ukuqoshwa okunjalo okunganqamuki kwedatha kwakuwuhlobo oluthile lokuthatheka. Kunezigidi zabantu abanempilo enhle nabaphumelelayo emhlabeni abangenakho. Ukuba “oxhumene kakhulu emhlabeni” ukwenza ukuphila kwakho kube nenjongo kukhumbuza umshini we-Goldberg - umshini omkhulu, oyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, okhangayo obeka umbukiso wesigamu sehora wokuxhaphaza ngokomzimba ukuze ekugcineni uphule igobolondo leqanda. Ngokwemvelo, uChris uyazi ukuthi angabangela izinhlangano ezinjalo, futhi ngokwemvelo, wayihlaziya nalolu daba.
“Uma unemali eningi, ungaphila kahle ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu. Kunabantu abahlela isikhathi sakho bese beyokuthengela. Kodwa ngibonise umuntu oyedwa ompofu ophila impilo enempilo.
Yebo, ngingabonakala ngithathekile futhi ngishiseka ngokweqile kwabanye abantu. Kungani nizihlupha kangaka? Kungani ungenzi nje okwenzayo? Ngaphandle kwanoma ibuphi ubuchwepheshe noma idatha? Kodwa ulwazi ngawe lusazoqoqwa, noma uyalufuna noma awufuni. Pho kungani ungasebenzisi imali ngakho?"
PS
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