Wake wahlangana nabantu abathi, ebunzimeni bokuqala, bangazami ukukunqoba bebodwa, kodwa bagijimele kumngane onolwazi oluthe xaxa ukuze bathole usizo? Uzakwethu omkhulu uphakamisa isixazululo, futhi wonke umuntu ubonakala ejabule, kodwa omkhulu uphazamisekile, futhi omncane akazange azuze ulwazi lwakhe.
Futhi-ke kukhona abantu ababonakala bengochwepheshe abahle kakhulu nabachwepheshe. Kodwa banokuzethemba okuphansi kochwepheshe futhi bayesaba ukuthatha okungaphezu kwalokho asebenakho. Futhi kukhona abantu abakuthola kunzima ukufunda ulwazi olusha; badinga ukudweba yonke into ngezikwele nemicibisholo, noma nangaphezu kokukodwa. Futhi hhayi ezimbili.
Laba bantu bavame ukuhlanganiswa yiqiniso lokuthi ngesinye isikhathi bahlangana nothisha omubi esikoleni noma umeluleki omubi kakade endleleni yabo yomsebenzi.
Kulula ukuba umeluleki omubi. Kungaba nzima ukubona umeluleki omubi, angase abonakale emuhle futhi engaboni ukuthi wenza amaphutha.
Kuyabiza ukuba nephutha
Ubudlelwano phakathi komeluleki nomfundi bungaqhathaniswa nobomzali nengane. Kokubili umzali nomeluleki banethonya elikhulu, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, bobabili umfundi nengane bangase bangazi ukuthi umeluleki wabo muhle noma mubi.
Njengoba nje amaphutha abazali engahlala impilo yonke yengane, amaphutha okuqondisa angahlala kuwo wonke umsebenzi wobungcweti. Amaphutha alolu hlobo ajulile, futhi akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukucacisa ngokwethembeka umthombo wawo.
Angazi ukuthi ngingalulama kanjani kulawa maphutha. Umgwaqo omude ofanayo njengoba kwenzeka kubazali - ukuqaphela inkinga kanye nokuzithiba okwalandela. Ngakho-ke, umeluleki kufanele aqonde futhi amukele isabelo somthwalo abelwe wona.
Ukulingana
Iphutha elibaluleke kakhulu noma ubani onethonya phezu komunye angalenza ukufaka imizwa yokuzizwa ephansi. Njengomeluleki, akufanele nanini uzibeke ngombono wokuthi wena, umeluleki, unguchwepheshe wesigaba sokuqala, futhi igunya lakho alinakunyakaziswa, futhi umfundi akekho ongambiza.
Umzila onjalo wokuziphatha uyindlela eqondile yokuzalwa komuntu okhubazekile ochwepheshe.
Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka uma umuntu engena ekuqeqesheni ngenhloso yokuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakhe siqu ngokumelene nesizinda sozakwabo abancane, abancane abaqeqeshiwe, ngenhloso yokubabonisa (futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, yena) ukuthi upholile kangakanani.
Ngaso leso sikhathi, angisho ukuthi awukwazi ukuya ekuqeqesheni ngenxa yentshisekelo yakho siqu; ungakwazi, kunjalo, kodwa kuphela esimweni lapho isithakazelo sakho siqu sikhula emcabangweni wokufundisa nokufundisa. ukufunda, emcabangweni wokuthi ochwepheshe abahle kakhulu baphuma ezandleni zakho.
Ukuvikela ngokweqile
Ukuvikela ngokweqile kuwukulimala okungokomzwelo okufanayo nokugxilisa umuzwa wokuzizwa uphansi.
Uma ungumeluleki, isifiso sakho sokubona imiphumela emihle emsebenzini wakho singase sivezwe ngokuthi uzowela esilingweni sokusiza lowo ofundiswayo kungenasidingo, noma umenzele yonke into, ungavumeli owakho ulwazi lwakheke.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, maningi amathuba okuthi umfundi wakho agcine encike, engahlelekile futhi engenalwazi. Futhi uma enebhadi, ngeke aze akubone.
Ngakho-ke, ngokuvikela ngokweqile, uzibeka engozini yokukhulisa umuntu, ngaphambi kokuba abe neminyaka engu-40, kunoma iyiphi inkinga, ngisho namalungiselelo afanele, agijimele kumholi weqembu ngendlela efanayo nabantu abangaphansi kweminyaka engu-40 abahlala nabazali babo ngenxa yokwesaba. ukuphila ngokuzimela.
Vumela abafundi bakho bafunde ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokwabo, futhi kuphela uma sebeqonda ukuthi basekupheleni ngokuphelele, bese ubasiza, uphakamise izinyathelo ezengeziwe.
Umfundi akasona isilima
Ngokumelene nesizinda sephutha langaphambilini, akunzima kakhulu ukwenza elinye - ukwenza umfundi azizwe eyisiwula.
Kukhona ukuhlanekezela okukodwa okuhle kobuqili bakho, “isiqalekiso solwazi” esijwayelekile kwabaningi. Iphuzu liwukuthi uma wazi ingxenye ethile yolwazi isikhathi eside futhi kahle, khona-ke kuwe lolu lwazi lubonakala luqondakala futhi lulele phezulu. Kodwa lapho uzama ukuzichaza, uzohlangabezana nokungaqondi ngokuphelele. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokungaqondi kahle, kusukela enkingeni ye-banal kuya eqinisweni lokuthi izincazelo zakho zisekelwe kwezinye izinto ezidinga ukuqondwa kuqala.
Ngakho-ke, kulula ukufika esimweni lapho uzama ukuchaza okuthile kumfundi, kodwa akaqondi, khona-ke uqala ukucasuka ngalokhu, futhi umfundi uyaqaphela, uyayiqonda imizwelo yakho, futhi konke kusihlwa uzokwenza. hlala ekhaya, ulalele umculo odabukisayo futhi ucabange ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku futhi akawufanele umsebenzi.
I-icing on the cake of results ingase ibe ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi unquma ukuthi nawe, unguthisha omubi.
Okufanele ukwenze ukuzichazela wena kanye nesigceme sakho ingqikithi yalesi simo, ubatshele ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu, ukuthi akufanele ukwesabe, futhi ufinyelele iziphetho ngokusekelwe kukho.
Mina ngokwami ngikhumbula kahle ukuthi ngangingawuqondi kanjani umqondo we-asynchrony, angizange ngiqonde ukuthi yiziphi izinzuzo ezinikezayo nokuthi yiziphi izinkinga. Bangichazela kanye, kabili, okwesithathu. Kubonakala sengathi ngiyaqonda, kodwa kuseyindida kakhulu.
Kodwa manje, ngemva kwesikhashana, kimi kubonakala kucacile, kusobala futhi kulele phezulu.
I-Duckling syndrome
Enye inkinga evela kwezidlule. Kukhona into emangalisayo ebizwa ngokuthi i-duckling syndrome. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi cishe wonke umuntu uyazi ngakho, kodwa ngisazochaza: i-duckling syndrome yinto lapho uchwepheshe ebheka ubuchwepheshe bokuqala noma ithuluzi elifundwayo njengelihamba phambili.
Njengomeluleki, kuwumthwalo wakho ngokuphelele ukutshela othile omusha kulo mkhakha ukuthi umhlaba awusebenzi ngaleyo ndlela, ukuthi wonke amathuluzi awusizo futhi abalulekile, ukuthi wonke anobuhle nobubi bawo, futhi okungafanele ukulindele. indlela yomsebenzi ihlale ifana nobuchwepheshe obufanayo obuseduze.
Uma kungenjalo, uzothola omunye uchwepheshe obhalise njengengcweti yethuluzi noma ubuchwepheshe, kodwa abadumile kakhulu, empeleni, bavame ukuhlangana ngamaqembu futhi baxoxe ngokuthi ulimi lwabo lokuhlela lungcono kakhulu, nezinye izilimi. banomona.
Angaba namaphutha amaningi kulawa angenhla, lawa angawona nje kuphela, kodwa naphezu kwalokhu, ayaqhubeka ephindaphindwa futhi onakalisa imisebenzi yabantu.
Lezi yizinto ezenziwa abeluleki ababi, kodwa ake sikhulume ngalokho okwenziwa ngabahle.
Impendulo
Lokhu futhi kuyinto esobala, kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu oqaphela ukubaluleka kwempendulo.
Okokuqala, impendulo iyadingeka ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuthi ofundiswayo akafinyeleli eziphethweni ezingalungile. Isebenza kalula kakhulu - abantu bavame ukuzama ukuthola impendulo ngokwabo ngaphakathi kohlaka lokungaziwa. Umuntu ongazithembi cishe uyothola ubufakazi bokuthi izinto azimhambeli kahle, akakwazi ukubhekana nesimo, nokuthi lo msebenzi awumfanele. Ngokuphambene, umuntu ozethembayo angase aqale ukundiza emafwini futhi ayeke ukukhula ngokusekelwe emcabangweni wokuthi usepholile ngokwanele.
Okwesibili, uhlobo lwempendulo kufanele luqondiswe ngokuqinile kumfundi. Abantu abanamahloni bazothola kunzima ukuphendula ngendlela efanele kumpendulo ezingxoxweni zo-1-on-1, kuyilapho abanye abantu befuna ukuthola impendulo ngokusemthethweni ngendlela yencwadi enemininingwane; kwabanye, ukuxhumana kusithunywa kwanele, lapho bengakwazi khona ngokuvamile. cabanga ngamagama alandelayo futhi ufihle imizwa, uma ikhona.
Okwesithathu, wena njengomeluleki udinga impendulo. Mhlawumbe udinga ukuthuthukisa amakhono akho okuqeqesha kangcono ndawana thize, mhlawumbe umfundi abone into ongayiboni.
Konke lokhu kuzungeza isimiso esilula nesicacile - obala. Uma ubudlelwano benu busobala, kuba lula kubo bonke abathintekayo.
Ukubalwa kwezimali kwenqubekelaphambili
Ngaphandle kokucabangela inqubekelaphambili, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukwenza iziphetho ezifanele ekupheleni kokuqeqeshwa. Isizathu salokhu silula kakhulu - ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuqhubeka, iziphetho zakho zizosekelwe enkumbulweni yakho, futhi isebenza ngendlela ehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, abanye bakhumbula okuhle kangcono, abanye okubi, ngakho umphumela wemicabango yakho esihlokweni esithi impumelelo yomfundi ingase yehluke kakhulu emhlosweni.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona into efana nokukhanya kwezinkumbulo zakamuva uma kuqhathaniswa nabadala, ngakho isigaba esiqedwe ngempumelelo noma, ngokuphambene, ukungqubuzana, kungabangela ukuzithoba okukhulu eziphethweni.
Kwanele ukumane ugcine itafula lapho imisebenzi yomfundi, okulindele kanye nalokho okwenzeka empeleni, futhi ngokuvamile yonke imibono yomuntu ngamunye esigabeni ngasinye sosuku ngalunye lokuqeqeshwa izochazwa; lokhu kulula kakhulu ukuhlaziya esikhathini esizayo.
Ukwembuleka Okulindelwe
Ukuqhubeka kwesihloko ngokuthuthukisa ukucaca okuphezulu ebudlelwaneni.
Ungafihli okulindele mayelana nempumelelo yabo kubafundi bakho. Lokhu kubalulekile ngesizathu esifanayo nempendulo - ukungaqiniseki kwemigomo yomfundi kungase kusebenze njengesikhuthazo kuye ukuthi azibekele le migomo, nokuthi ihlukile kwaleyo efiselekayo noma cha - kuye ngenhlanhla.
Uma konke sekuvele kukubi
Uma uzwa sengathi wena noma umeluleki wakho nenza lawa maphutha, ungesabi ukukhuluma futhi ucabangele ukuthi uyayifuna yini imiphumela engaba khona.
Uma usuvele uhlangabezane nemiphumela yokwelulekwa okubi, khona-ke nginganikeza iseluleko kuze kube sezingeni lokuya ku-psychotherapist futhi uxoxe ngezinkinga naye, ngoba ungase ungakwazi ukuzixazulula ngokwakho.
Ngifuna ukugcizelela ukuthi ukuba umeluleki kuwumthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu kunalokho abaningi abangakucabanga.
Inani
Khumbula into esemqoka. Awuyi ekuqeqesheni ukuze nje ube umeluleki futhi unwaye imizwa yakho siqu. Futhi ngokuqinisekile hhayi ukuze uqaphele ukuthi upholile futhi unolwazi kangakanani uma uqhathaniswa nabaqalayo noma abancane.
Lokhu ukwenza ukuze uqinisekise ukudluliswa kolwazi olusezingeni eliphezulu, ukusiza ozakwenu ukuthi azethembe futhi abhekane kangcono nemisebenzi. Ngendlela, ngezinye izikhathi bazwakalisa i-stereotype engavamile, bathi, ukuba umeluleki nokuqeqesha othile enkampanini yakho = ukukhulisa umuntu oncintisana naye, abantu bakholelwa ukuthi kulokhu kunenzuzo enkulu ukuhlukanisa ulwazi, okuthiwa lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi isisebenzi esibaluleke kakhulu.
Uma, ngemva kokufundisa ingane encane ubunkimbinkimbi bomsebenzi, ucabanga ngempela ukuthi manje uzoba isizathu sokuxoshwa kwakho, ngikuphathele izindaba ezimbi.
Source: www.habr.com