Kua koroheke ahau, kua kuware, ā, kei mua i a koe tō oranga katoa, e te kaihōtaka. Engari, tukua ahau kia hoatu he tohutohu kotahi hei āwhina i a koe i roto i tō mahi—ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe kia noho tonu hei kaihōtaka.
He tino whai hua ngā tohutohu pēnei i te "tuhi waehere ataahua," "tāpirihia ō kōrero ki tāu mahi," me te "ako i ngā anga hou", engari heoi, he tuarua noa iho ēnei. He whakaaro noa iho ēnei i muri i te kounga tino nui me whakawhanake e te kaihōtaka.
Koinei te kounga matua: he hinengaro pākiki.
Ehara te hinengaro pākiki i te pūkenga engari he hiahia ki te mārama ki tētahi taiao tauhou, ahakoa he hangarau hou, he kaupapa hou, he āhuatanga hou rānei o tētahi reo hōtaka.
Ehara te hinengaro pākiki i te mea nō roto mai i te whānau, engari he āhuatanga kua akohia. Hei tauira, i mua i taku mahi hei kaihōtaka rorohiko, kāore i a au tētahi.
I roto i ā mātou mahi, ko te hinengaro pākiki te tikanga o te hiahia ki te rapu i te take e kore ai e mahi te tangata nanakia. Ahakoa ko wai te kaituhi o te waehere—koe, ko tētahi atu rānei.
Ki te titiro koe ki tētahi mahi e whakaotihia ana e koe, e ō hoa mahi rānei, ko te āhua o tēnei mahi he pēnei: mārama ki te raruraru, kimihia he wāhi hei whakatika, mahia he whakatika.
Ka tīmata noa te hōtaka tūturu i te mutunga o te mekameka, ko te wāhanga matua he mahi tonu i roto i te hiahia hinengaro. Ko te kounga whakamutunga o te otinga me te tere o tōna hanganga ehara i te mea e whakawhirinaki ana ki tō pūkenga ki te tuhi waehere, engari ki tō hiahia kia tere te mārama me te kimi i te wāhi e tika ana kia tukuna ai tēnei waehere.
Me pēhea te whakawhanake i te hinengaro pākiki? Ehara i te mea uaua. I puta mai i ahau tētahi rautaki māmā i ngā tau kua pahure:
Kia kore ai ngā tama e whakama ki te whakaatu.
Ki te kore e whakama te whakaatu i tō otinga ki ngā tama, he tino pai rawa atu. Ki te keri hohonu koe ki roto i tētahi raruraru, ā, kāore e whakama ki te kōrero ki ngā tama, he tangata pai koe.
Kaua e hurihia tēnei kōrero hei pepeha a te Alcoholics Anonymous. Mēnā kāore anō kia mārama ki a koe, i tuhi waehere kino rānei koe, kua mutu i waenganui o te akoranga, ā, kei te whakaari koe i tētahi whakaari kare ā-roto e kī ana "He kuware rawa ahau, ā, kāore au e wehi ki te whakaae!", e whakaatu ana i tō koretake me te tumanako ka arohaina koe, āe, ehara koe i te kaihōtaka.
Anei tētahi tauira. Nō nā tata nei, i takaro tetahi kaimahi tauira i tētahi raruraru i roto i tētahi tikanga tino uaua—i te taha hangarau me te taha tikanga. I pau te rā katoa, ki taku mōhio. Ko ia anake te nuinga, engari i tono āwhina anō hoki ia ki ana hoa mahi. I kī mai tētahi o ngā kaimahi tino mātau kia whakamātau ia ki te whakatika i ngā hapa. I te ahiahi, ka ngokingoki mai te kaimahi tauira ki ahau.
Ki te pono, i mahara ahau kei te hē te tirohanga a te tauira mahi, ā, kei te hē te kitenga i te mea, ā, me tīmata taku keri mai i te tīmatanga. He pēhi te karauna, i te nuinga o te wā. Engari i kitea kua tata te tauira mahi ki te kimi i tētahi otinga. Inaa, i āwhina ahau i a ia ki te mahi i taua taahiraa. Engari ehara tēnā i te kaupapa matua.
Ko te mea nui ko te whakaatu a te tauira i te hihiri pono. E mōhio ana koe ki te kite i te hihiri pono? He māmā noa iho: ina kitea, ina tata kitea rānei e te tauhou tētahi otinga, ka neke ia me te kore e mōhio ki tēhea huarahi, ahakoa te nui o te ngangau me te uaua, kāore e mutu, ahakoa te kata a te hunga katoa i tō rātou taha, ā, ka kauwhau ngā "tohunga" ki a rātou me ngā tohutohu pēnei i te "ako i te pāngarau" me te "tirohia i roto i te taputapu whakatika hapa".
Ahakoa te iti rawa o te whai huatanga o te whakaoti rapanga i roto i te tauira kua hoatu, kāore i te whakama te haerenga i mahia e te tauira ki ngā tama. I ō tātou rā o mua, ko ēnei tāngata anake i ora - nā te mea kāore he tohunga, he mea tauhou katoa ngā hangarau katoa ki te katoa, ā, ko te hinengaro pākiki anake ka taea te whakaora i a rātou.
He rite tonu te kitea o te hinengaro pākiki i waenga i ngā tauhou me ngā tauhou. Ko te makawe hina, te nui o ngā tiwhikete, me ngā tau o te wheako ehara i te tohu o te hinengaro pākiki. E mōhio ana ahau ki ētahi kaihōtaka he maha ngā tau o te wheako e ngākau pouri ana ina tūtaki ki tētahi mahi uaua. Ko tā rātou anake he tuhi waehere kia rite ki ngā whakaritenga, kei reira ngā mea katoa e whakatakotoranga mārama ana, tae atu ki ngā ingoa o ngā ripanga me ngā taurangi.
Nō reira, e ngā tauira mahi, e ngā tauhou hoki: he rite tonu ō tūponotanga ki ērā o ngā hōia tawhito. Kaua e tukua te wheako me ngā tohu a te tangata tawhito kia mamingatia koe—kāore te hinengaro pākiki e whakawhirinaki ki tēnā.
Ahakoa te aha e mahia e koe, kia maumahara – me mahi i roto i te huarahi e kore ai ngā tama e whakama ki te whakaatu. I whakaakona tēnei e te samurai: ki te tuhi reta koe, whakaarohia ka whakairihia e te kaiwhiwhi ki te pakitara. Koinā te mutunga.
He tino māmā te rautaki "kia kore ai ngā tama e whakama ki te whakaatu" ā, he ngāwari hoki te whakamahi i ngā wā katoa. Kati ināianei tonu, i roto i te haora, i roto rānei i te tau, ka whakautu: kāore koe i te whakama ki te whakaatu ki ngā tama i tāu i mahi ai? E whakama ana koe ki te whakaatu ki ngā tama i te kaha o tāu ngana me te huarahi i rapua ai e koe he otinga? E whakama ana koe ki te whakaatu ki ngā tama i te huarahi e whai ana koe ki te whakapai ake i tō whai huatanga i ia rā?
Ā, kaua hoki e wareware ko wai tā tātou e kōrero nei. Ehara tēnei i tō hoa mahi, i tō kaiwhakahaere, i tō kiritaki rānei. Ko te ao hōtaka katoa tēnei.
Source: will.com
