Karma is an invitation to a party

At the risk of karma (hehe), I want to take part in the discussion and answer the author this post. In principle, one could confine oneself to the title, but since we have Habr here, and not Twitter, I will spread my mind along the tree, like a gray wolf on the ground, and a blue-gray eagle under the clouds.

Karma is an invitation to a party

Let me quote the post that inspired me to write the answer.

I see only two reasons for reducing "karma". Many see more and it excites my curiosity

These two reasons are:

  • Spammers
  • Fluders

To be honest, I also see only two reasons. True, usually each specific user uses only one of them:

  1. I don't like this person
  2. This man is out of place here

Reason number one corresponds to the "zero level player" - a user who does not bother with any metacognitive considerations and simply expresses his attitude. You don't like the person - put a minus to see him less. You like a person - we put a plus in order to protect him from other people's minuses.

Reason number two corresponds to the "level one player" - the conscious user, who not only is guided by momentary affect, but also thinks more strategically. Such a user puts a minus if he believes that the harm brought by a person to the community outweighs the benefit, and probably other users will feel the same way. The first-level player has some idea of ​​the goals and standards of the community, and he evaluates how the assessed (sorry for the tautology) corresponds to them.

Here, according to the logic of the story, there should be praise for the second approach and condemnation of the first. But it won't. Actually, I'm not sure the second approach is better. Yes, the first approach is prone to outliers, but it seems to me that as time tends to infinity, it leads to a fairly fair average estimate. On the other hand, the second approach may be subject to paradox of Abilene or other similar distortions that will give a systematic error.

However, I spread somewhere quite far along the tree. I didn't mean to say that at all. I wanted to develop my party metaphor.

A party is when a group of people get together to have fun. Parties come in varying degrees of closeness. From secret ones, to which only a select few of the elite will be invited, to the “party at Decl’s house”, where, as you know, “the whole area walks”. However, all parties have something in common. There will be people who will not be invited there. And that's completely normal.

The reasons for this can be very diverse, but in the end it all comes down to the same two factors: either you prevent someone from having fun, or someone thinks that you prevent others from having fun. But the reasons are not interesting. Interesting implications.

It makes no sense to prove that you are cool, cool and very needed at this party. You have already been weighed, measured and decided that - no, you are not cool, not cool and not needed. This is a social reality. It is, of course, more unsteady than physical reality, but it also has an objective nature. And in general, hitting the wall of alienation is about as useful and effective as hitting a concrete one.

You have two options on how to get out of this sad situation without losing face. First, of course, you can look for another party. This is also completely normal, the main thing is not to announce it publicly without going through face control. This looks ridiculous and pathetic.

If you don't want to look for another party, look for another you. No, I'm not talking about some existential things. Different interface, different public API. Try ironing your shirt and shaving your armpits. Refer to "you" (but not to "you", it's mannered). Try to keep insults to no more than five percent of the volume of your comments. Quite possibly, some smallness is enough for people to reach out to you. But you are solely responsible for finding and implementing this smallness. Among adults, it is not customary to make comments. Adults simply close the doors and assume that those who remain outside will draw the necessary conclusions themselves. Unless, of course, they generally consider it necessary to assume something.

So it goes.

Source: habr.com

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